When it comes to the topic of virginity, our society is extremely ineffective in fostering an open discussion about it. The spectrum of sexual activity has two categories one can belong to - the constantly horny open for anything man/woman that makes this activity the center of their life, or the socially reclusive, nerdy, friendless, and possibly religious guy/gal that has to be coached by his "pro" friends into simply talking with a possible partner (I'm looking at you, 40 Year Old Virgin). Simply search anything with the word "virgin" in it and the first results will be Yahoo! answers forums from reclusive, depressed teenagers who can't handle their latest breakup.
With the rise of the internet and the ability for everyone to voice their opinion, regardless of how stupid it is, this sediment has only been entrenched further into our way of thinking. If you follow the cinemas today, you'll see sex portrayed in the same light, with it either being extremely "hot, passionate" sex (50 Shades of Grey), or awkward laughable sex (40 Year Old Virgin). Very few characters are portrayed in the middle.
I recently came across this article from the Guardian that talks about the 1/5 of society that simple doesn't have sex, or at least not as frequently as everyone else. Read it if you want more details; I recommend it.
I guess what spurred me to write this quick blog post was, what do we say to the rest of those in society that don't fit into the two categories of sexual activity? There are certainly more than you'd think (though not as many as I'd like, I'll admit.), and me being one of them, it's a very lost and confusing world. There really isn't a community to go to for support, with the options again being polarized into the "we need to get you laid now" party and the "you'll find the right person someday" religious cookie-cutter answer. I'm a little sick of it, and while I've managed to forge together some reasoning behind how I feel, I'm sure others out there have not.
There are so many reasons that it doesn't happen for some people. Some are medical, others a personal/religious choice, and others are asexual. From my point of view, is there not anything else you can do to fill your time? The world is huge, and there's so much to see! I guess it's just me, seeing as I'm very, very cynical about relationships and sex, but spending extra time and energy on exploring somewhere new would appear way more of a well-placed investment than laying in bed all morning/day.
Just some thoughts from a confused, frustrated young adult.
Jacob
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